I've always found fascinating the subject of femininity and sensuality. Ever since I discovered who I was as a Taurus, I’ve been eager to learn how to express these qualities in my relationships.
When I read about sensuality, it's usually right up there next to sex, seduction or some taboo subject. Yet, sensuality is the determining factor as to whether two partners stay sexual, romantic, or friends. The fine balancing act of sensuality is what can inspire a romantic relationship.
Sex is great, but is it special?
The American culture loves to promote sex. It's in our movies or songs and on the internet. This is even more evident in our billion-dollar porn industry.
Although sex is important for the propagation of our species, sex is a basic act all animals take part in. There's nothing special about two people having sex. Anyone old enough and able to do it is doing it.
When looking at two extreme ends of a pole, I'd place the act of sex at the bottom of the pole. Sex meets our most basic needs. On a basic level, it draws the masculine and the feminine together.
Intimacy tugs at our heartstrings
A different subject altogether is intimacy. Intimacy involves shared special moments with your partner; sharing of hopes and dreams. It's being able to establish an emotional connection with your lover.
You can have an intimate relationship with someone you're having sex with or not. If sex is on the low end of relating, then intimacy would be on the high end of relating. Animals and bugs have sex, but intimacy is what separates animals from humans.
Passion, intimacy or romance?
Relationships that fall on extreme ends can pose challenges. Relationships that are sexual can fizzle out fast if there's no intimacy. Studies have shown that men don't bond through sex at alone.
An intimate relationship without sexual passion can get stuck in the friend-zone. No one likes getting friend-zoned because once you're in, it's hard to get out of it. This happens when neither partner progresses the relationship toward sex.
Without sexual passion, intimacy cannot flourish into something more. And without intimacy, sexual passion cannot evolve into anything more. But passion and intimacy are not enough to cement a connection between two people.
You also need romance which can be found in sensuality. Sensuality is the heart and glue that connects sexuality and intimacy. Sensuality is the most sensitive to the success or failure of a relationship.
What is sensuality?
Sensuality is the ability to experience one's senses. Smelling, tasting, seeing, hearing, touching and feelings combine to awaken the body. Sensuality can strongly contribute to a sexual connection.
How comfortable you are at expressing your sensuality depends on how in tune you are with you and your lover. Becoming a sensuous woman is a sensitive, balancing act. Once you're able to hone in on your sensuous nature, it can help you get your dream man and help you hold on to him as well.
It's important as women that we learn how to inspire a romantic connection with our lover or lovers (if that’s your thing). Sensuality is the tie that binds you two together. It's taking me many years to work out the fine, balancing act of sensuality.
And I'm still a work in progress, but practicing is a whole lot of fun.
In another post, I'll share how to tap into your most sensuous nature. You'll learn what it takes to keep your man begging for more. That's what you want right? We'll explore together how to hone a lot of the qualities that you've buried deep within you. You're going to learn to become...
A Sensuous Siren